Love is a divine force we struggle to understand, but in our dimensions, love is a joy feeling we can experience when we give or receive. Sometimes without being too conscious of it, we give love to others, to our partner, to our family, to our friends. You know you have given some love when you have made them happy, when you have released them from their heavy loads, when you've giving them a smile that removed their sadness, their disappointment , their worries and anxieties. We do this in different ways. Sometimes we use words, sometimes we use the eyes (the look), some other times just our presence is enough. Someone got happy for you've said you love him/her. Another felt better because of your loving, comforting look, and in some occasion you said nothing, looked at nobody, but people got cured simply for you being there with them.
Love is the key to happiness
Love is a feeling which relives, which softens, which removes heavy loads of the heart, which purifies the inner heart. When love is present, you can laugh and smile again, you feel encouraged, inspired, and strong enough to resist the different problems we face daily in social life. If you agree with this description of love, you immediately realize that love gives happiness.
Most of us mystics and spiritual people start our journey with first studying, gathering knowledge, meditating on the different mystic, metaphysic subjects, debating on them... that helps our understanding and and improves our intelligence and it even goes as far as developing our wisdom. But then we realize that it's not enough, because neither knowledge or wisdom gives happiness. You might wonder how wisdom, such a super spiritual virtue does not give happiness. Well, it does not. Only love can give happiness. No other virtue can.
Wisdom can assist with showing you the way to happiness and how to keep for long that happiness; so it lightens you, guides you, but that's where it stops. Wisdom can even make you cold, old and become inactive. In fact wisdom is symbolically cold and love is warm. Wisdom will freeze the whole of you, you know so many rules, so many principles that you become too courteous to the point of not even moving. Knowledge freeze; what happens is before you action anything you start to think twice, 3 times, 4 times, and even 10 times , which is often the cause of hesitations among wise people,. While love warms the whole of you, and makes you move, it makes you dance, jump, go help someone, and sacrifice time for something or for someone, or for an idea.
Without love, the spiritualist may have the perfect idea of becoming very spiritual but he/she won't take a move to start doing something for that idea. Do I sound like I'm speaking against wisdom? No, believe me, I'm a great fun of wisdom; I tend to even preach the wisdom virtue and to encourage it all the time ( I just cannot help it ). I will be the last person to speak against it. . However truth has to be said, wisdom alone doesn't give happiness.
Wisdom's role is to guide love
Despite the priority I've given to wisdom, I keep aware that cold and hot (wisdom and love) must be balanced. I give first priority to the wisdom virtue because it takes light to keep love around.
By trying to give love, many people hurt others. Without wisdom, we fail to love properly.
People of today's society have a strange understanding of what love is and it shows in the way they practice it, meaning the way they receive and give love. Some believe that true love is about giving whatever you have to the poor, so they will give to anyone the most precious material things they have, believing they have done the right thing. Of course when we have no discernment, we end up giving whatever to whoever, without knowing the consequences. But this risk that we could encourage the lazy people, the addicted and the criminals with our unwise generosity.
The love feeling is not produced by one specific object or action. To give a book as a gift to someone may bring great joy today, but tomorrow giving the same book as a gift may not give the person the same joy. Which proves that love was not the book. And everyone is different, some are moved by books, some others by money, others by words... So it requires some light to know the right action, the right words, the right gift to give in other to awake love in ourselves and others.
Who knows how to awake love in the heart of people is a white magician. The black magician is of course the one who awakes hatred, bad feelings in others. To be a black magician requires no wisdom at all. You most likely can succeed in becoming a black magician if you blindly start giving away anything, saying anything, to anyone in the street, giving any kind of look... in no time you will succeed in becoming a great black magician .
Love is every being base need
Love is a pleasant feeling. Whenever we feel happy, joy, that is love. It is the most beautiful thing in the existence that's why all being look for it. in fact all being will sacrifice for what they consider as their source of love. It may seem like we humans look for money, wealth, but No . Behind that wealth, it is happiness, it is love we are looking for.
You will certainly hear or have heard of rich people saying they are not happy despite all the wealth they have. They are surrounded by treasures but they are still not happy, why? because love is not money. But then look, give that person a wonderful loving partner who gives him/her support, courage, someone who makes them laugh, who calm them down, who helps... then their words will change, they will say they are the most happiest person on earth. It will not be surprising that a rich person gives up his/her wealth for the person he/she loves. Which shows how more important love is. And it is so in all fields of life.
I still remember when I was a child we had plants in the house not too far from the window, I was impressed by the fact that those plants grew up bending towards the window always. My dad tried to use sticks to put them straight, to keep them vertical, but no chance, the plants wouldn't listen! they still bent towards the window, it was clear they were going towards their source of love, meaning towards the sun. Knowing that love is every being base need. Why not think about it and start giving some love.
I've had few esoteric and spiritual teachers. One in particular kept advising me to greet nature every morning when I wake up. "Say hello to the sun, the air, the plants... from your bedroom window ", That's something I found ridiculous back then ? , because I had no good reason to like it. I did it anyway then only later in life I finally understood the benefit of that "ridiculous" morning practice. Today I can feel nature greeting me back, and almost smiling at me (for lack of proper descriptive words to use).
Haven't you ever experienced a feeling which happens to take an image in you mind. Feelings can be as strong as to make of you a great artiste, a great poet, a great musician... and through your art you will move people, you will communicate that love. Why keep love for yourself? it doesn't exist just for you anyway , it only flows through you. So find ways to share it. Also there is no risk of becoming poor when it comes to giving away love. The more you give the more you receive.
There is more happiness in giving that in receiving
There is more happiness in giving that in receiving. Try this yourself and you should quickly notice it. When you give something nice and beautiful to someone, you actually feel proud of yourself and happy don't you? you feel joy. Or simply look at the face of someone giving someone else a present, a gift. That person has a smile, he/she gives with a smile. He/she feels great for his/she act.
The one receiving the gift is also happy, but it is not a guarantee that the receiver always gets delighted. However the giver is the happiest. And if the receiver is grateful, and shows signs of joy, the giver is even happier.
The happiest being in the universe is who gives, not the one who receives.
Between God(or the creator or whatever you want) which is the giver and Man the receiver, God is the happiest. Me writing this thread is a form of giving some love, it may not be read or considered, but do I care? I don't. I feel great joy/love in writing these posts away (sharing my joy with all). That matters a lot. That joy is a feeling of love. People to who you give love may or not be open to receive, but again it doesn't matter, at least you as the giver feel love for the simple act of giving. Instead of always complaining that nobody loves us, why don't we just love them? Why wait to be loved, when we can love for our own sake, for our own happiness. The feeling of being loved is the same as the one when giving love. Giving love is just little more.
I'm not suggesting to stop receiving and just giving. No, we need to learn to do both (giving and receiving). But keeping in mind that the quality of what we give defines what we will receive. If during a meditation you manage to become receptive if you stop your thinking process and allow thoughts and feelings to come to you, you will notice that only will come to you the same kind of thoughts and feelings you've been entertaining before you entered the state of reception. If however you start by being active, thinking of spiritual topics, then when you stop thinking, the most beautiful spiritual topics/images will also come to your mind and heart. From the mind, start by sending, giving your best energies, in order to receive the same quality of energies, newer ones.
Knowing how to receive love
Receiving is a good thing, especially when we have nothing beautiful, spiritual, wonderful to give away. We need to receive, we need to learn to notice love whenever there is one. To receive love requires a lot attention because love is really subtle. But once you are rich of it, it becomes easier to detect love with the least effort.
At the beginning, pay a little more attention to the beauty in anything. I promise you that even in ugly things there is some beauty, if you can see it, you can become optimist in life. You will relax where everyone is stressed. In stead of always finding the wrong and shortcomings in all texts, in people's behaviors, in music... you will start discovering the beauty in it and enjoy it. Even a child's talk will contain something interesting to you, something you can learn from, because you pay attention . That's what attention can lead to.
That way, you will slowly be filled with some love. When you finally have enough to give away, then find ways to give. You soon notice that you refill constantly the more you give. It is as it the universe fills you soon after you've given, that's just so you can continue giving more. And as you continue giving, you realize that you are getting more joy in giving than in receiving.
Listening to music for example provides great love feelings, when you listen to music you receive love. But have you noticed that if you sing as you are listening, the feeling can get even greater? Sometimes the one who make the music is even happier than who listened to it. Not mentioning much many great feedback he/she receives from his/her funs.
If you commit to always receive and never giving, you limit yourself. The receiver will wait till something makes him/her happy. When there is nothing, he/she is depressed, frustrated, miserable. However the giver is free, the giver doesn't have to wait, he/she can generate that love feeling by him/herself. The givers can drink love everyday, every hour if they want. And they will not get tired of doing so, because love will keep flowing through them to energize them. The wonderful feeling of love continues endlessly to visit those who keep giving. I wish we keep practicing love in order to know happiness.
Love and light